Wellness and the Birds
July 5, 2008 Uncategorized No Comments
It is HOT! Do you hear me I said HOT! Standing outside without shade is a mistake if you don’t want a big time sun burn. This is typical of the 4th of July in
I hope each of you has a happy holiday and will have a safe time around fireworks. I tend to watch them from a distance, I’m a little bit spooked by firecrackers. When I was young I preferred those snakes that you put on the sidewalk. They were not as exciting as firecrackers but they didn’t hurt my ears. I was sensitive to noises, and I still am.
This is just a quick post to let you know I am here. I hope all is well in your life today!
What can be said about the experience of hypomanic and manic behavior, the result of rapid cycling emotions and insights. Judgment is out the window and the swirl of the wind and trees can be toppled and life as I know it can be upside down. I suppose it varies to a great extent, from one person to another, what the behavior is when in this polarity. For those of us with clearly diagnosed episodes of mania, there are enough mistakes and disruptions in behavior to bury us. I choose to keep close the specifics of the damage done to myself ,family and friends. It is a dreaded part of my illness but I choose to forgive myself and express it with some distance so that I might continue with my healing. This poem is dedicated to each of us who has struggled with this part of bipolar.
The Tree Lives in Me
A glorious stand of trees grows to meet the sky. A single tree with leaves brilliant green in the shadows. I have come to realize the tree lives in me!The branches are alive in body,mind and spirit. Heart strings embrace harmony; wisdom,peace and love. In small sways and the tiny twigs, the song is strong.
In the forefront, burnt umber leaves of grief, withering. Yet, I am Cherokee and I live in the tree. We are all related, kindred spirits growing strong.Branches crackling with heavy pain; The breeze echoes the moaning, whaling, and weeping.
Yet, centered high in the treetop we see, Glorious green leaves of transformation. My imperfections and human blunders are carried away with the breeze. Transformation from humiliation to humility and from shame to self-forgiveness. I am the tree of self discovery.
And more so and will be….Blessed be the tree.
Sunday and it is one day until the end of June. It is mild outside with periodic cloud cover and a gentle breeze. What a perfect day to work in the garden and collect the veggies that have come to season. A cool breeze and a comfortable day to attend to the garden are rare in
There is a taste of the earth present in each veggie. It is not the essence dirt, only turnips taste like purple dirt. But it is a connection to the spirit of the earth that makes you feel healthy with each bite. So tonight we will have a supper of fresh potatoes, cucumbers, tomatoes and squash. Water melon and cantaloupe are on the vine but not quite ready.
I went to the Farmers Market yesterday and found a cantaloupe. What a lovely summer evening it will be. No recollection of bipolar, just taking in the sweetness of the day and country living. Healing of the body and spirit from Mother Earth.
I pause ever so often to look at the house and imagine the experiences of the old farm family that resided inside. The gate is locked so they can let their cattle graze throughout the pasture. My shyness keeps me from approaching the homeowners to ask for a closer look at the old house. For now I remain content to look from the road. It may also be that I’m not ready to let go of my idealized version of the house for fear that the vines are really poison ivy and that the inside of the house is smelly and decayed.
It would be easy to see this as a run down shack in need of demolition. But as I get older I identify with these structures and ponder the history they provide. I love how their function has long since faded away but the crusty old dwelling remains. The house reminds me of my experience with depression when I was only the slight image of a vacant shell. I would find myself numb and absent of feelings and thoughts with the inside of me decaying and smelly. There were no warm inviting images of those days but only a whimpering structure with the lights turned off.
As for now, the lights are turned on and my voice is strong. I have a healthy respect for the power of depression and keep a daily vigil to watch my footsteps so I will not fall back into the desperate well of darkness. How pleased I am that I can find the words to describe what it is like to be depressed but remain in this very moment of wellness.
The huge trees that dot the pastures and roadway near my home provide life lessons that fill my eyes with varying shades of green after an overnight rain. As I approach the old country church cemetery on Route 65 there is a full growth of trees that has grown together to form an arch. When the sun is behind the clouds there is a bit of apprehension as I drive the quarter of a mile through the emerald green growth. I wonder if I will be lost in trees or if the archway will close with me in it. But when the sun is brilliant, bright and glistening, the rays shine through making a vibrant kaleidoscope of glorious green colors that tickles my eyes and brightens my spirit. I take a number of deep breathes at the end of the expanse of trees. I smile and look to the sky.
To have the illness bipolar means there are times when I have a sense of awkwardness. I have questions and wonder why I am not ordinary and why my life’s purpose seems blurred and fleeting. I retreat to my stories and walk in the pasture chewing on a blade of grass. The sweetness of the grass and the stories in my minds eye come forward and for that time, I am at peace.
There is a Native American tradition called shape shifting. It is a practice that demonstrates the connection and belief that we are all related. In this story there is a dove named Grace whose challenge in life was to learn the meaning of shape shifting and find her purpose.
Grace the Dove
Grace changed from whinny to demanding and defiant. “Now see here Creator, I deserve a fully functionally set of tail feathers”. Creator was quiet and then turned to Grace. and said, “ I made you the way you are, but does that mean you are stuck that way?” “Am I the only one that can fix you?” The creator began to walk away and said, “I gave you a precious gift, I named you Grace.”
The dove said back,” I have no grace, all I can do is flop and I have been given no special gifts”. The Creators final words to Grace were delivered with a quiet reassurance, “maybe you can consider shape shifting”. Grace was far too frustrated to respond to the creator and was insulted that she would have to do the job on her own.
The next morning Grace sat on the roof watching as a flock of geese flew by in such an impressive formation. One guy goose landed and asked Grace why she seemed so sad. “Sad, she screeched, I am furious”! “I asked for a simple tweaking of my tail feathers and the creator lectures me about shape shifting.” The goose felt sorry for Grace and said, “I know who can help you, there is an old brown owl down at the end of the street and behind the shed”.
The next morning it took Grace until noon to wobble her way and find the owl. Owl had few words for Grace, especially with her attitude; until owl saw a tear in her eye and heard her say, “What use am I, a dove who only flops and will never belong to my clan, they never wait on me and some even laugh at my tail fathers.” Owl responded with a message of hope,” how do you think there came to be owls?”
“We do not fly that much, we sit, we look around and we ponder great mysteries. Other creatures come to us for our wisdom and to get answers to questions”, said owl. Grace seemed puzzled and asked, “Do you mean you were once a dove with stubby tail feathers”? “No,” said Owl, “I just mean we did a shape shift in our spirit so we could be of some purpose and feel like we belong.”
Grace proudly strutted back to her roof top taking with her the wisdom from owl and the determination to change. She pondered her spirit and shape shifting here and there. She returned to her perch on the roof top feeling unique. She would be the keeper of the roof, the touchstone for others to help find their way home.
She would mainly ponder the words from Creator- what an unexpected gift–Grace
One year ago today my partner died of cancer. For nineteen years we shared the sunsets and sunrises. The shades of brilliant colors warmed my heart. But as night time overtakes the light; with filtered illumination I reflect on our life and her death with gut wrenching tears of missing her and intermittent smiles of the memories we shared.
One midnight she shared with me the beautiful northern lights, rolling across the sky as if she painted it just for me. Waves of blue, green, and flowing touches of orange and red. But especially there was pure white light that filtered through those northern lights, the show of a century. Unimaginable beauty and mystery, my nineteen years of lovely memories and tears and more so…
It is easy to find an image in nature that mirrors the symptoms of rapid cycling and that is the cycle of thunderstorms. In
Cycle of the Storm
Yesterday it was raining buckets long before dawn. I was awake and gathering my thoughts for today’s post. The night before held a grey-green stillness that announced the coming of a storm. It was also the gathering of electrical energy in the atmosphere heard in the far off rumble of thunder and blinking flashes of lighting. All through the night the storm worked its way through to the end but it was the build up that was threatening.
Out my bedroom window I could see the ranch to the south. Three paint ponies and two young colts were darting through the pasture with tails and manes flying high. It was a framed off scene of power and beauty. Yet in the rapid cycling years I would experience sensations of electrical exhilaration with the very sight of running horses. But soon my dream of riding bare back would mutate into a distorted sense of my self flying high and summon all kinds of melancholy. I would be the captive of my “chair of depression”.
Despite the storm I drove into town. Rushing red water was flooding over some of the low lying roadways. I decided to take an alternate route to avoid the murky stream of muddy red water. My mind was somewhat distracted by the periodic down pours and the concern that I might hydro plane at any moment. My shoulders were tense, my eyes tightened and I questioned my decision to make the trip. Before long the rain let up and the sun came out. I began to relax and take in the beautiful glow of sunshine through the clouds. This had been one of the harder trips to make but the images were clear and I needed to tell this story. As if awakening from a nightmare the recollection of rapid cycling is fading and I am once again in my new found place of peace and wellness.