Nature and Healing: Grieving Lost Love
June 14, 2008 7:34 pm Living MetaphorsOne year ago today my partner died of cancer. For nineteen years we shared the sunsets and sunrises. The shades of brilliant colors warmed my heart. But as night time overtakes the light; with filtered illumination I reflect on our life and her death with gut wrenching tears of missing her and intermittent smiles of the memories we shared.
One midnight she shared with me the beautiful northern lights, rolling across the sky as if she painted it just for me. Waves of blue, green, and flowing touches of orange and red. But especially there was pure white light that filtered through those northern lights, the show of a century. Unimaginable beauty and mystery, my nineteen years of lovely memories and tears and more so…
June 14th, 2008 at 8:26 pm
Oh Annie,
I’m with you now…
I immediately fell into my grief when I read this.
The pain is semi-sweet in that it is something we share.
The love never dies.
June 14th, 2008 at 9:05 pm
Dear Annie,
I am so sorry for your loss. I never knew what to say to people who had a loved one die until my mother died. And then I realized, all I wanted to hear was that someone cared that I was hurting so much inside and feeling so much love, and pain at the same time. My thoughts and prayers are with you!
With love,
Susan
Susan
June 14th, 2008 at 9:50 pm
Annie,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your partner. I lost my Mom two years ago and so many things in this life remind me of her. I see her in everything. It is so hard to lose the ones we love. My heart is with you.
…aqua
June 15th, 2008 at 7:51 am
Dear Annie,
*hugs* to you! I am sorry you are hurting. You have some beautiful memories to wrap yourself in…my thoughts are with you.
Love,
Jazz
June 15th, 2008 at 2:51 pm
Hi Annie,
I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you on this difficult bittersweet anniversary.
June 15th, 2008 at 6:11 pm
There is something that happens when the sun sets that brings one closer to the grief of someone loved. I have never been able to discover exactly where the connection comes. During those times one can feel amazing joy, strength, and peace with a smile on the face and a deep restful sleep occurs. Then there are the times when sorrow, pain, and suffering wrap around the soul and every minute of the night ticks away torturing one with never releasing sadness. It is in the experience of both, that healing and recovery comes. Thank you for using your beautiful metaphor to consider or own pain and allow us to share in the soul of yours.
June 15th, 2008 at 7:42 pm
I’m sorry for your loss, too. And one year isn’t very long, is it?
June 15th, 2008 at 10:49 pm
I am sorry to hear of your loss, Annie. It takes a long time time to go through the grieving process as I know you know… but don’t rush through it, just allow it to happen as it does in it’s time. It will. And, she will always stay with you in your heart. I’ll be thinking of you from way over here. take care, luv.
June 15th, 2008 at 10:51 pm
PS- I have only ever seen the northern lights once and they were barely there… it must have been such an amazing experience and at such a time as this… how perfect…
June 16th, 2008 at 9:44 am
Gianna, thank you for your comments.It helps to know that others have gone through this pain. Annie
June 16th, 2008 at 9:47 am
Susan, It is difficult to find words but just knowing you share feelings regarding grief is comforting. Annie
June 16th, 2008 at 9:49 am
Aqua,My mom died tree years ago just a few months before my partner was diagnosed with cancer. I don’t think I had the time to grieve my mom’s death. Thank you for your comments! Annie
June 16th, 2008 at 9:51 am
Jazz, I do have beautiful memories. Thank you for the sensitive comments.Annie
June 16th, 2008 at 9:53 am
C- I love the word bittersweet to describe loss of significant relationships. Thank you! Annie
June 16th, 2008 at 9:54 am
Lizzie, Thank you for such insightful and tender comments. Thank you, Annie
June 16th, 2008 at 9:57 am
Therapydoc, It is so true that a year is a short time in grieving. My life is sorting out but feelings-wise it seems like a lifetime since my partner was here. Thank you for the comments.Annie
June 16th, 2008 at 10:00 am
Jena, thank you for your kind comments. It is important to not rush the grieving I will take your words to heart.Annie
June 16th, 2008 at 12:24 pm
Big hugs Annnie.
June 16th, 2008 at 2:41 pm
Thank you so much Amanda! Annie
June 16th, 2008 at 10:49 pm
I’m so sorry you lost your partner. I’d say it gets better but I dont really believe that. I do hope it does for you tho
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